Mutual Masturbation Among Men - Question
Return to DiscussionsI have masturbated with several guys - some identify as straight, some as bisexual, and some as gay. For me, jacking with a buddy is never anything more than that. It's just guy fun - we hang naked, talk, watch some porn, and stroke. I'm not opposed to a helping hand, but most times we just stroke ourselves. I don't think of it as a homosexual activity - often, we're watching straight porn and talking about the flick and what we like. We all masturbate, and I find it a lot more fun to masturbate with a buddy than alone. Having said that, I have found it quite difficult to find other guys that have similar views and are open to beating off together. Gay men nearly always want to do more than stroke (I'm not interested). I suspect that straight men are terrified that they might be called gay, or perhaps they fear they may be pressured to do more than stroke. I'm not sure what might inhibit bisexual men.
So, I thought I'd ask you all about your experiences and views. Tell us how you identify (straight, gay, bi, etc.) Have you had a bate buddy in the past? Would you be open to stroking with another guy now and then (nothing more, just jacking)? If not, please explain why - I'm really just curious.
i agree i think if your just jerking with a pal and it's your cock your jerking you can be straight , i think it's when you you jerk his cock and he jerks yours you are at least going the bi route and no doubt if you still like the gals but like other cock or anal too your definately bi.guys who only like guys sexually are no doubt gay. i like everything more or less but don't remember it being called bi when i first sucked a cock but still liked girls too.
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Sex is to be enjoyed and tried in my view - if it's not for you having tried it then don't do it again.
If you are bashing the meat with one or more guys then why not try one in your mouth - even if it's only a couple of slides up and down a shaft - see where it leads - maybe nowhere but if you don't try it then you will never know.
My view is simple - do what's fun with both sexes - and don't tie a label to it
I'm gay and with no straight experiences at all. I love masturbation and really it does not matter if the man I am masturbating with is gay, straight or bisexual. Yes, I like to suck cock but it is not essential, whether in a group session or a one to one, you'll know where you can go, or not. Even when it's just two gay men, sucking or fucking is not necessarily part of the scene and sometimes one just gets off on watching each other. It all comes down to one simple rule (regardless of the combination of people) just do what feels right and what you are both comfortable with.
It seems to me that many straight or bi guys back off from some activity with another man because of the fear of being thought of as being gay - or more silly 'it might make me gay.' But has no one thought of the gay man that perhaps plays with a male and female couple, oh my goodness! That may turn him straight....!!! So, just relax and enjoy what is on offer.......
I was happy to grow up those guys who tought me a lot about mastubation and just being with other guys. Now I have a group of guys who are mostly gay that I am comfortable just jacking off with and playing some. I'm never worrried about anything happening I wouldn't want. I also have a very straight fiend that who enjoys talking about masturbation with me as well as meeting in person to jackoff in the same room, but rarely do we every touch each other. I like having both situations. And now I kind of I wish I had a friend here now! Lol
I agree with @oldguy that labels don't always matter. Labels are limiting, and labels make a lot of assumptions. I think that many of us are concerned that others will judge us: if we like one aspect of activity usually ascribed to a "labeled" subgroup, then we must like all of the activities ascribed to that group.
Hey, sex is fun and sex is very individual. And I believe that orientations are really individual and just points on a continuum. I think cocks are hot and sexy. Forms of art as with any other part of the human anatomy. I love masturbating either alone or in a group. I love stroking other guys' cocks, and I love having a guy stroke mine. Does that make me bi? MM anal or oral is hot to watch, but not my thing for participation. So I think of myself as somewhere between bi and straight. Neither label fits. But if one is authentic to what one finds pleasurable and still within one's own boundaries - and one is not hurting anyone else - then why not?
I have been a nudist for a long time now and part of the mindset is being open with your body and your nudity. It's sad, however, how many nudists stop this openness when it comes to hard ons and male erections. I love being nude and love the male nude and love an erect cock when I see one. Does it mean I want to suck it right away? Not really. Be nice though :-) I have a few guys who I masturbate with ... its a wonderful thing to be nude, erect, and pumping away as you chat, watch porn, or just masturbate.